Abesilisa abanganeliseki ngempilo yabo yezocansi bavame ukubheka amantombazane amahle. Ngokwezibalo, cishe ama-30% amantombazane angashadile ayizindlovukazi zomuntu. Okulandelayo, siphakamisa ukuthi kufundwe amaqiniso athakazelisayo futhi athokozisayo ngabathandi.
1. Iningi labesifazane elixhumanisa ikusasa labo nabesilisa abashadile, njengomthetho, bawahlanya othandweni nabo.
2. Abaphathi abaningi bathokozela yonke iminithi abayichitha nalowo okhethiwe, baphile ngokuhlangana baye emhlanganweni.
3. Inkosikazi ngayinye ekujuleni komphefumulo wayo ithemba ngobuqotho ukuthi okhethiweyo wayo kungekudala uzohlukanisa nomkakhe osemthethweni.
4. Inqwaba yamakhosikazi akholelwa ukuthi azoba ngumfazi olandelayo wabathandekayo bawo.
5. Abesifazane abaningi abangenamakhaya baphoqeleka ukuba bagubhe amaholidi ngaphandle kothandana nabo.
6. Ezimweni eziningi, izinhliziyo ezikhohlisiwe zabaphethe kabi zigcwele izithembiso ezingamanga futhi ezingagcwaliseki.
7. Imvamisa, abathandi bazi cishe yonke into ngomlingani wesoka labo.
8. Iningi labaphathi benkosikazi bakholelwa ukuthi ngomqondo osondelene, bavelela omkabo ezicini zonke.
9. Njengomthetho, izindlovukazi zincane kunamakhosikazi asemthethweni.
10. Amakhosikazi amaningi abiza, abhale noma azame ukuthola umhlangano namakhosikazi abalingani bawo ukuze kutholakale ubudlelwano bangaphandle komshado nokucekela phansi umndeni ngokushesha okukhulu.
11. Amaphesenti amakhulu abaphathi, sebethole isehlukaniso sabathandekayo babo kumkakhe, bese bengena naye emshadweni osemthethweni, bazithola sebethandana okusha.
12. Abaphathi bamakhosikazi baqapha ngokucophelela ukubukeka kwabo ukuze babukeke njengabamnandi futhi abafiselekayo ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuvakashelwa kothandekayo wabo.
13. Iningi labaphethe kabi linesiqiniseko sokuthi umnumzane ubathanda kuphela ngenhliziyo yakhe yonke, futhi uhlala nonkosikazi wakhe ngokuzithandela nangesikhashana.
14. Abesifazane abaningi, sebephile isikhathi eside esimweni senkosikazi, banquma ukukhulelwa kubalingani babo. Abanye bazizalela ingane, abanye bazama ukukhipha indoda emndenini ngale ndlela.
15. Abesifazane abaningi abahlangana nabesilisa abashadile bajabule impela ngesikhundla sabo, ngoba akudingeki baxabane nabathandekayo babo ngenxa yezinkinga zansuku zonke, futhi abadingi nokupheka, ukugeza, ukuhlanza.
16. Isabelo sengonyama samakhosikazi sinomona ngozakwabo ngomkakhe.
17. Abathandi kufanele njalo balinde, isibonelo, imihlangano nezingcingo.
18. Njengenjwayelo, cishe ayikho inkosikazi eyaziyo ngobukhona benye.
19. Ubulili obulungile, obabungaxhumana nendoda eshadile, kufanele balalele njalo amaqiniso amabi ngokuhlala ndawonye nonkosikazi wakhe.
20. Omakhosikazi baphoqeleka ukuthi ngokuzithoba balale embhedeni obandayo ngenkathi okhethiweyo ehlanganyela umbhede wakhe nomkakhe.
21. Ezimweni eziningi, ukwethembeka okuvelele kuyadingeka kusuka kumakhosikazi, yize okwamanje umlingani engenza uthando kumlingani wakhe.
22. Kaningi, umthandi kufanele avumelane nemibandela ebekwa yisithandwa sakhe, isibonelo, nohlelo lwemihlangano.
23. Abanye abaphathi ngabesifazane abashadile.
24. Inkosikazi kumele njalo ibe seceleni.
25. Amakhosikazi amaningi athola izipho ezibizayo kubanumzane bawo.
Njengomthetho, izihlobo, abangane kanye nonkosikazi walowo okhethiwe abazi ngobukhona benkosikazi.
27. Imvamisa, abathandi bayathanda futhi ngasikhathi sinye bazonde umlingani wabo ngokungahlali naye, ngenxa yezithembiso ezingagcwaliseki.
28. Iphupho elikhulu cishe lawo wonke amakhosazana ngukuba ngunkosikazi osemthethweni womlingani wakhe.
29. Ukuphoxeka okukhulu kwezintokazi eziningi ezibanjwe ogibeni lukanxantathu wothando ukudabuka ngesikhathi sazo esichithekile.
30. Imvamisa, abesifazane bayaphoqeleka ukuba babe ngabaphathi babaphathi babo ukuze baphumelele emsebenzini futhi bathuthuke emisebenzini yabo.
31. Isibalo esikhulu sabesifazane senqaba ngamabomu ukushada futhi baqhubeke nokuba sesimeni senkosikazi, besaba ukuthi ngemuva komshado umlingani uzogodola, noma bona ngokwabo bazoba ngabafazi ababakhohlisayo.
32. Inani elikhulu labamele abesifazane baphupha ngokuba ngabaphathi bamadoda acebile.
33. Esibalweni esiningi kakhulu samakhosikazi, inkosikazi isuke iphambene nenkosikazi esemthethweni.
34. Abaphathi bamakhosikazi abaningi bakhetha ukuhlala usuku olulodwa, hhayi ukuzitika ngemibono eyize mayelana nokuphila okungenzeka kanye nabathandekayo babo.
35. Abanye besifazane, abathandana nowesilisa, abazi ngobukhona benkosikazi nokuthi bangamakhosikazi.
36. Kaningi, abathandi abangakwazanga ukukhipha indoda emndenini banquma ukuphendukela ezinsizakalweni zamasalon omlingo bese benza uthando lokuthakatha kulabo abakhethiweyo.
37. Inqwaba yamakhosikazi afuna ukwehlukanisa izithandwa zawo nabafazi bawo, kepha ababaningi abaphumelelayo ukuletha lolu daba ekugcineni.
38. Abesifazane abaningi abanobudlelwano obuseduze nabesilisa abashadile banelisekile ngokuphelele ngemihlangano ngaphandle kwesibopho.
Ngokwezibalo, iningi labaphathi abangamakhosikazi abakwazile ukuhlukana nobudlelwano babo obunzima bathola umuntu omusha futhi bamshada ngempumelelo.
40. Abanye abathandi ekujuleni kwemiphefumulo yabo bayaqonda ukuthi ifomethi yobudlelwano enjalo ngeke iholele kunoma yini enhle ekugcineni, kepha bayesaba ukwephula ukuxhumana ngenxa yothando oluqinile ngendoda.
41. Amakhosikazi, njengomthetho, kaningi kunamakhosikazi athola izipho, ngokwesibonelo, izimbali, ubucwebe, nezipho ezibizayo kaningi.
42. Amakhosikazi angenazinkinga athathwa njengabesifazane abashade ngokusemthethweni.
43. Iningi labakhosikazi ligcina seliphenduka abesifazane abagciniwe, abaya ekusekelweni ngokugcwele. Uma iselutha, indoda isilungele ukukhokhela noma yisiphi isifiso.
44. Bayanda abesifazane, abaqala ukuthandana nowesilisa oshadile, bathembele ekwesekelweni ngezinto ezibonakalayo, futhi abaholwa yimizwa.
45. Amakhosikazi ikakhulukazi anekhono embhedeni futhi azazi mathupha ngokuhlukahluka kwezikhundla.
46. Impela bonke abaphethe kabi abajwayelene nomuzwa wokuzisola, ababahawukeli abafazi abakhohlisiwe, bayabadelela nokubabukela phansi, ngaphezu kwalokho, bakholelwa ukuthi labo abanebhadi yibona abanecala, ngoba phela, abalandelanga abayeni babo.
47. Abesifazane abaningi abathatha isinqumo ngokuthandana nowesilisa oshadile bayesaba ukuthandana nabathandana nabo.
48. Abanye besifazane banelisekile ngesimo senkosikazi kangangokuthi empilweni yabo abalokothi bangene emshadweni osemthethweni.
49. Isithandwa asikwazi ukuzincisha ukuxhumana ohlangothini, ngoba asiboshiwe yizifungo nezibopho nomlingani waso.
50. Inkosikazi ithola isisa esikhulu, ukuqomisana, uthando, ukunakekelwa nokunakwa, kuthi umsebenzi wasendlini uye kunkosikazi.
51. Abesifazane abaningi asebengene ebudlelwaneni nowesilisa oshadile bayavuma ukuthi isithandwa sabo yisona sithandwa sabo esingakaze sibekhona.
52. Njengoba eseyinkosikazi, umuntu angabona ngokugcwele ukuthi isizungu siyini.
53. Inkosikazi kufanele ihlale iqamba amanga ngempilo yayo izihlobo, abangani, nozakwabo.
54. Yize iqiniso lokuthi umlingani aqale axwayise ngokuthi umuntu akumele athembele kokuthe xaxa, iningi labesifazane abangenamakhaya abalilahli ithemba ngekusasa elihlangene eliqhakazile.
55. Omakhosazana bayesaba umphumela we-boomerang.
56. Izindaba eziyinkimbinkimbi nezingaphandle komshado ziholela abaphathi abaningi ehhovisi lesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo.
57. Abanye abaphathi babheka isikhundla sabo silulaza, kepha ngenxa yothando abakwazi ukuzisiza.
58. Abesifazane abaningi basesimweni senkosikazi futhi ngasikhathi sinye abayizwa nhlobo imizwa yothando, indoda kubo ingumxhasi kuphela akukho okunye.
59. Isabelo sengonyama samakhosikazi sibheka ubudlelwano babo nendoda eshadile njengobumnandi obungenakulibaleka kwezothando nobulili basendle obungalawuleki, abakulungele ukushintshanisa konke lokhu ngesimiso somndeni.
60. Iningi labesifazane elisebudlelwaneni nendoda engakhululekile likholwa ukuthi abanumzane abafanele bonke bamatasa, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthandana nomuntu oshadile kunokuhlupheka wedwa noma ukuhlangana nelobolo lamahhala.
61. Kakhulu abathandi ebudlelwaneni babo bajabulelwa yikho konke, ngoba bathola ukhilimu wobudlelwano phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane.
62. Ngokuyinhloko, izintokazi zikholelwa ukuthi kuyathakazelisa ukuba yinkosikazi, ngoba njalo lapho zihlangana, i-adrenaline, uthando, imizwa iyawa.
63. Amanye amantombazane ayavuma ukuthi ahlala athandana nabafana abashadile, futhi ababoni lutho oluyihlazo esimweni senkosikazi.
64. Kunesigaba sabesifazane esibizwa ngokuthi “inkosikazi ephoqelelwe”, labo bantu besifazane abaneshwa neze kwabesilisa; Ekugcineni, baphoxeke ngokuphelele ukuthola umfana okhululekile ohloniphekile, bakulungele ukunambitha isithelo esenqatshelwe ngenxa yobuhlobo.
65. "Ukuya ocansini ngocansi" kuyisiqubulo sabathile abangalungile.
66. Abanye omakoti abazithandi izihlobo zomyeni futhi abakwazi ukuthola ulimi olufanayo nazo. Inkosikazi, ngokungafani nonkosikazi, ayidingi ukujuluka ngalokhu, ukudansa kushuni kaninazala nakwabanye abalingani abaseduze.
67. Inkosikazi ingumzingeli weqiniso, iphuma ibambe konke okulele kabi, kwesinye isikhathi isilo sigijimele kumzingeli uqobo.
68. Ukuvela endaweni esesidlangalaleni nomuntu omthandayo kungukunethezeka okungavumelekile, ngakho-ke inkosikazi kufanele njalo ibe semathunzini.
69. Abanye abashadikazi, sebengene shí olwandle lwenkanuko nomuntu ongakhululekile, bahlukanisa abashade nabo.
70. Abaningi abamele ubulili obulungile, ekubeni besesimweni senkosikazi, bayazisola ngalokhu.
71. Kwabesifazane abaningi, ukuba yinkosikazi yomuntu ongakhululekile kufana nokugxuma kweparashute, okungukuthi, ukweqisa kwangempela, okunzima ukwenqaba.
72. Amadoda ahlukanisa nabafazi bawo aye kumakhosikazi abo, kodwa izimo ezinjalo azivamile.
73. Inkosikazi ehlakaniphile ithuthukisa ukubukeka kwayo ihlukumeza umuntu ongakhululekile, inkosikazi eyisilima iyayithanda, ikhala ilinde okhethiweyo wayo.
74. Isithandwa siyindlela yokwelapha ingcindezi, izinkinga kanye nokungagculiseki kwezocansi nowakwakhe ebhodleleni elilodwa.
75. Amakhosikazi amaningi azithela ngabandayo bese esebenzisa izinkulumo nezinsongo ezibhekiswe kunkosikazi nezingane zomlingani wabo.
Ngokwezibalo, owesifazane wesithathu ngamunye okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wayesendimeni yenkosikazi yendoda eshadile.
77. Wonke unkosikazi uziqhathanisa nonkosikazi wakhe.
78. Njengomthetho, owesifazane onobudlelwano obusondelene nowesilisa oshadile akagcini kumlingani oyedwa ocansini.
79. Amantombazane amaningi kakhulu ayakufihla emphakathini nasezihlotsheni iqiniso lokuthi athandana nendoda engakhululekile, esaba ukulahlwa.
80. Abesifazane abaningi abasele dengwane kaningi abashiya ikhaya banquma ukubulala isithandwa sabo sangaphambili.
81. Inqwaba yamakhosikazi akholelwa ezindabeni nasezithembisweni zomlingani wabo ongakhululekile.
82. Iningi labaphathi abangamakhosikazi alikuthandi ukuba semathunzini, bakhuthele babize amehlo omkabo, baphinde balwele isithandwa sabo kuze kube sekugcineni okubuhlungu.
83. Abesifazane abasemakhaya abangochwepheshe abakwesabi ukulahlwa ngumphakathi, ngakho-ke bakhombisa ngenkuthalo izindaba zabo zangaphandle komshado nendoda eshadile, ngalokho bezama ukusheshisa isehlukaniso kunkosikazi waso.
84. Ukuba yinkosikazi kuyinto engenakulinganiswa.
85. Abaphathi abaningi baphila ngokulindela ukuthi umnumzane wabo uzohlukanisa nini nomuntu wakhe othembekile, kodwa angaboni ukuthi impilo yonke ihamba kanjani.
86. Kunezikhathi lapho inkosikazi ifinyelela isikhundla lapho iqala khona ukuhlangana nesithandwa sayo kanye nonkosikazi wayo.
87. Ngokwesilinganiso, ubudlelwane nenkosikazi buhlala iminyaka eyi-3-10.
88. Imvamisa abesilisa bathola amakhosikazi emsebenzini. Isithandwa esisebenza naye silungile, ngoba lolu hlobo lwezinto kunzima ukuthola, ngoba konke ukuxhumana nokusondelana kwenzeka emsebenzini.
89. Ngokwengxenye enkulu, ukuze abantu besifazane babe ngabathandi ukuzizwa befiswa futhi bethandwa.
90. Imvamisa ubudlelwano nenkosikazi buphela ngokuvela kwengane emndenini, kepha, njengomthetho, emva kwesikhashana babuye baqhubeke, noma kube khona okunye ukuthanda induduzo.
91. Iningi lezindaba zangaphandle komshado zizohluleka.
92. Abanye abathandi bakholelwa ukuthi basesimweni esikahle sobudlelwano, lapho kungenandawo yokubhoreka nokwenza okujwayelekile.
93. Abaphathi bamakhosikazi abaningi bayaziqhenya ngesikhundla sabo, bethi igama elithi “nkosikazi” liyimpande efanayo egameni elithi “uthando”.
94. Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nendoda engakhululekile, inkosikazi akumele ilindele okungaphezulu.
95. Amakhosikazi aphelelwe yisikhathi avame ukushaywa kanzima ngamakhosikazi asemthethweni.
96. Ngokungafani nonkosikazi, inkosikazi iyasazi isimo futhi ihlanganyela umbhede nomunye ngamabomu.
97. Ngokuqondana kwenhlanhla nenkosikazi, ingathembela emndenini waseSweden.
98. Abaphathi abaningi banethemba lokuthi emva kokuzalwa kwengane, othandekayo wabo uzoshiya umkakhe.
99. Iningi labo abathanda uthando lenza izinhlelo ezibucayi ngomlingani wabo, bese kuthi uma behluleka bawele ekucindezelekeni.
100. Kwesinye isikhathi amantombazane aya kumakhosikazi ngoba efuna ukuziphindiselela, njengoba esethole ukuthi ophathina bawo baqala ukuqoma eceleni.
